One of the first things we learn as kids and then grow up to teach our kids is to be honest. “Honesty is the best policy,” is perhaps the most common phrase that we’ve grown up hearing. As deeply engraved in our characters as honesty should be as a result of this, sadly, it is not. The minute we find ourselves in a problematic situation where we can get away with lying, we choose to stay away from the truth. Saying that this is wrong will be an understatement.
It has somehow become widely believable that lying is the easier way out and in order to make ourselves feel better, we make excuses like caring for other people’s feelings and avoiding an awkward confrontation. In simpler words, we have made lying easy. This is, however, not the case. Once we decided to lie to someone, we have to think about the perfect excuse which is both a lie and also believable. In order to cover that lie up, we might have to make up a million other lies. It is an endless process. This, combined with the constant fear and anxiety of the other person finding out the truth, takes a real toll on our mental and emotional health without us realizing it.
A person who maintains an honest lifestyle and steers clear of lying is tension free. They lead honest lives without the stress of losing the people they care about or of breaking any friendships. This stress-free attitude contributes to a healthy, long life. Additionally, honesty lets people carry candidness with them wherever they go. They do not have to think about what they have to say, they do not have to especially process their thoughts and formulate their words before speaking to anyone. That is, honest people can truly be themselves. This leads to better, more comfortable interactions with the people around them and might also help them form healthy relationships. When you’re honest and you’re being yourself in front of someone you have just met, the other person will like you or hate you based on your true self. This can help you avoid misunderstandings and the formation of friendships or relationships based on lies.
In today’s time, the most likely cause behind the deep-rootedness of dishonesty in our characters is perhaps the need for validation. The world and our daily lives have become a race; a race about who is the smartest, who is the richest and the need to be likeable by the masses. A great contribution to this mindset is made by social media.
Social media has conditioned our brains to always seek validation from the people that we don’t even know that well. This encourages us to lie. Lie about our feelings, our lives and about who we are as a person. The problem starts when we idolized other people without knowing the background story and start competing to be like them.
Honesty is the most integral part of a person’s character and without honesty, there is no trust in any sort of relationship.
One of the first things we learn as kids and then grow up to teach our kids is to be honest. “Honesty is the best policy,” is perhaps the most common phrase that we’ve grown up hearing. As deeply engraved in our characters as honesty should be as a result of this, sadly, it is not.